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INTERACTION :: Here, “Queer” – But Do You Like It?


Montreal Gazette blogger Jillian Page recently proposed in a post we reclaim the word “queer”, writing, “the word still has a lot of negative connotations for many people — not the kind of word we would use loosely in a headline here.” But the question remains:

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THE SACRED & THE PROFANE


An aberration. An act to be reviled. A mortal sin punishable by death. Religious texts have not spoken well of homosexuality when they do speak of it, which—by the way—is infrequent. From Hinduism and Judaism to Islam, Buddhism and Christianity, every faith has a view of homosexuality. For the most part, the teachings and takeaways from these beliefs don’t bode well for gay men (most don’t mention Lesbians). The sacred really have it out for the profane.

Growing up gay comes with a lot of baggage: peer pressure, parental pressure and societal pressure—all on some level fueled and informed by religion. Whether someone adheres to religious doctrine in their own day-to-day living doesn’t seem to matter until the topic of homosexuality rears its head. Suddenly, everyone takes to the pulpit to share notions of homosexuality.

Invariably, the Leviticus card is played. It’s almost comic to hear someone who wouldn’t know scripture if it leapt up and bit them in the soul suddenly become an expert theologian when it comes to sacred text and homosexuality. However, most who start the verse in Leviticus that mentions homosexuality would be hard pressed to finish it in its entirety. But that’s what armchair preaching will get you.

Do queers create our own religion?

It’s no surprise that many gay people have disassociated themselves with religion altogether after years of being publicly decried and privately abused. The Pope makes no bones about taking potshots at gays when given the opportunity. Hey, we get it from the religious and secular worlds on a non-stop basis. Gays abandoning organized religion doesn’t surprise. However, gays embracing religion is a head-scratcher to many. Sort of like the Log Cabin Republicans. What’s up with that? Self-loathing? Denial? Conformity?

Why would a gay person want to belong to a religion that overtly rejects and reviles them, labels them a sinner or an evil force to be slain? What is it that gay believers get that supersedes the underlying contempt that comes from scripture, the pulpit and the flock? It seems out of step that a gay person would willingly participate in the Catholic Church, Temple or Mosque. Some gays who have not abandoned organized religion have turned to Buddhism and Hinduism to express their spirituality since these religions don’t single out and decry homosexuality in their text, per se. That’s not to say that followers and cultures built on these teachings haven’t adopted anti-gay attitudes. So, what came first, the homophobia or the homophobic?

Is homophobia nature or nurture?

For years, theologians, psychologists, sociologists and biologists have pondered and researched the question: is homosexuality nature or nurture? This has opened doors for more understanding and acceptance of queer people—it has also become fodder for those looking to fire a silver bullet at the “gay gene”. However, with many religious texts from different faiths having no mention of homosexuality, yet their followers decry homosexuality, I invert the question: Is homophobia nature or nurture?

One way that gay people—any people who don’t conform to organized religion for that matter—have managed to stay connected to the god force is by separating their spirituality from religion. The idea is: spirituality is innate; religion is a man-made manifestation of spirituality. Following that line of thought, do queers create our own religion? We created “Queer Nation” a few decades ago, why not a queer theology with its own doctrine and laws (think of the tax breaks!). Hey, if the Westboro Baptist Church can create its own violent doctrine in “God Hates Fags”, why can’t we counter that with a church that espouses “God Loves Gays”? Some say Toronto’s MCC has achieved a bit of that.

While we continue to grapple with our place in the world (depending on where we are in the world), we continue to wrestle with our spirituality and how to express it both internally and externally. Do gay people have a place in the churches, temples and mosques of the world? Can religion actually help stop homophobia? Are we destined to always run in opposition to one another? Time will tell. But one thing is sure, gay people are not without faith, belief or reverence. Some of us just pray in a different church and at a different altar.

Amen. Shalom. Namaste.

Andrew will be moderating a panel discussion about the relationship between queers and religion Tuesday, April 26 in the Village. All are welcome.

Bent Religion
7:00PM – 9:00PM
O’Grady’s Bar and Restaurant on Church
518 Church Street
Toronto, ON

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A Community of Pride


Let’s start with an introduction.  WE are Pride Toronto.

A collection of 26 volunteer committees, a handful of paid staff, a community of appointed Board of Directors, and 30 years of experience, stories and contributions that make Pride Toronto the largest Pride festival in North America, – and one of the largest Pride celebrations in the world.

Over the next few months, Words of Pride – The Official Blog for Pride Toronto, will feature a regular update called “Community of Pride”, in which we will bring GayGuideToronto.com readers around town to meet the individuals and share the stories of those who have been part of the Pride experience over the past 30 years – past, present, and looking towards the future.  From this BLOG as our platform, we will explore the personalities, memories, coming out experiences, and first “Pride” memories of Church and Wellesley, as well as get to know what Pride means around Toronto.  From the Village to King St W, from the surrounding GTA to individuals from other cities around the globe.   Together we share common experiences under an umbrella called Pride.

Together, we are a Community of Pride.

Want to share your own stories about yourself or someone you know ?

We’d love to hear them.   Talk to us about what “30 Years of Pride” has represented.  And help us meet the individuals who have been changed for the better because of their own Pride Experiences.

Send Pride Toronto a direct email to [email protected] — with the SUBJECT “Community of Pride”.

If you submit a story about yourself or someone you know, please also submit a photo or graphic (with permission to post from that individual) and we will consider the posting for an upcoming Community of Pride update.

Start with “My name is ….”

And if possible, share with us which of the LGBTTIQQ2SA* categories your story falls within – as these facets make up our community, and together, create a phenomenal historic relevance.  Community of Pride will explore the individuals that make up our famous acronym.

*Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transsexual, Transgender, Intersex, Queer, Questioning, 2-Spirited and Allies

Along the way we hope to share few warm laughs, shed a few tears, and commemorate some important milestones along the way.

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And don’t forget to join us in Toronto for Pride Week, June 25 – July 4, 2010!

Yours with Pride,

Pride Toronto

(as written by Michael Ain, Marketing & Communications Manager)

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Bent Relationships


Two posts, two days in a row, an indicator that I’ve actually done a little more this week than sit on Facebook uncovering subject matter best left in the dark.

Last night I attended “Bent Relationships” a monthly panel discussion at the Gladstone Hotel. The evening was a small GGT reunion with Brandon Williams -Step 2 (more on him later) and Sean Cribbin – Leather 101

You have to watch the video to get the scoop from Andrew Vail, GGT contributor and the evening’s moderator.

Here’s my admission. In lieu of my one-hour relationships I’ve opted for something more lasting and inter-species for my emotional fulfillment (I say this in jest as I know I’ll never get a date after posting this without a disclaimer).

I’m having a non-sexual emotional polyamorous relationship with my dogs- although with my old dog who loved to eat condoms one might have lead one to think it was moreas she’s crapping one out in park after accidently nabbing post-amorous moment – again TMI!

Being the modern age, my one dog, the PTSD Chihuahua cross is presently co-parented by a lesbian couple and myself. Now that my friend this is the cutting edge of pet-focused relationships in the new millennium. I guess that makes me just a smidgen with the times….. or not.

I actually enjoyed the talk, which touched on experiences I’ve had, triad relationships, sex work and being in a monogamous relationships to many other topics. It made me long for that side of me that’s a bit crazy, a side I’ve completely repressed or oppressed since this clean and sober stuff.

And that my friends is a completely different post.

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The crip and the mo


It has been a bit of a busy week for me, but I wanted to share some thoughts about last week’s American Idol finale, before we’re on to the next manufactured piece of art. Read the full story

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Gaydar


How do we relate to the alphabet soup?

A committee I’m involved in is reorganizing itself and the age old question of our question of our name came up. Are we Queer? LGBT? Or LGBTTIQQ2S? We all know that countless groups struggle with this issue, especially recently, as the acronym has expanded. I tend to identify as “queer” most of the time but am also comfortable with “gay”. It really depends on what I’m doing and where I am. Read the full story

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