A baby boy sits with his baby mother on the streetcar.

The boy cries.

The mother talks to her phone.

An important call.

The mother tries to calm her son.

An important conversation.

The boy cries louder.

The mother holds the phone between her cheek and shoulder.

An attempt to soothe her child.

Coo.

Shh…

It’s okay.

Everything will be okay.

Goodbye.

The phone is passed to the baby.

The tears stop.

The eyes widen.

“Daddy!”

Some Sundays are meant for pondering. This one is dedicated to the mysteries of love, more to the point, the complexities of love. It’s one of the most confounding emotions we feel. It is almost impossible to define as it means different things to different people and manifests itself in many ways. Read the full story

I have been dating my partner John for about 6 years now. I will admit that this has been the best relationship of my life.

When I first started dating John we discussed the boundaries of what the relationship would look like. We explored whether it would be open or closed. Would we play together or assimilate the ever pervasive, “don’t ask, don’t tell policy”.

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“You are a lover.  The larger part of you loves.  When you don’t love, you are not who you really are and there is a seperation that you can feel in your solar plexus that feels like hate or feels like anger.” – Abraham

Interesting:

I had a romantic situation arise this week that inspired an intense emotional reaction.  When presented with the opportunity, my first thought/feelings regarding it were very strong.

I began feeling what seemed like very negative emotion right away.  Something was telling me that this was not the direction I wanted to be going. I could easily feel that I was being guided toward a different decision.

The problem is at the time I just questioned  these thoughts/feelings, as opposed to welcoming them, and listening to the message they related wholeheartedly.

I felt I was being selfish and not who I really am, I felt full of fear and insecurity.

“That empty awful feeling that you call fear simply means, your thought is not in sync with who you are.” – Abraham

The truth is: I allowed this message – “Richard, you are not being yourself” – to fall on deaf ears and let those deaf ears provide a false sense of peace.

The person I am today knows when to say NO to what I was being offered by life – and for good reason.

Yesterday I was making a playlist for a friend and I had asked about including music from a certain artist.

He said:  “Whatever is in your heart, add!  Doubt means don’t.”

And I thought…

OMG!  I knew that.

Why didn’t I listen to my own doubts about this romantic situation this week?  They were so loud and clear!  But I fought them.  I thought it was me being out of the vortex of my well being.  It was my own inner guidance system and it was saying: “RUN!”

“Negative emotion means you have departed from who you are.” – Abraham

I hadn’t experienced this much prolonged activity outside of my vortex in recent memory.  I could have easily listened.  Made other plans for a time when they felt right.  Instead I pushed myself and in the direction of that which I do not want.

In a text message from my beautiful sister, Allysyn, this morning, she asked: “How are you feeling through all this?”

I honestly replied: “Doing well.  The hot embarrassed feeling has almost entirely left me.  I have learned that next time my body, mind, soul  are giving me a direction, I will directly succumb to its guidance.  I do feel free knowing that something or someone has been experienced that brought a lot of life giving contrast – gave birth to huge desire – and will never quite happen that way again.”

“Ride your own rocket into the vortex and imagine your own resolutions that your life experience has caused you to launch.” – Abraham

My friend Staci was engaging in conversation on Facebook about Love. Being that it’s Valentines day and all. She has posted her inspiring posts on her thoughts on love and has set the tone for the conversation very nicely. Staci always wants our perspective and she asked us to fill in the blank.

Love is______?

What is love? Many of us are now probably listing a myriad of things that love is. Love is unconditional. Live is blind. But is love really any of those things? Can love be anything?

I remember my friend asking me why I love my partner. My reply was quick I said “I have no reason why I love my partner”  He was puzzled by this response and inquired, “what do you mean?” I replied, “If I had a reason to love my partner would I not be in love with those reasons and not my partner. I love my partner for who he is not for this reason or that reason. But for the whole package including all the things the rub me the wrong way.”

Love Just is, It can not be defined or conditioned.

I have a confession to make: I have been a slave to my own mind.

There are parts of me  holding on to the same old story and I don`t know why.  Even at times when I think that there are not.

Example:

There is this boy I was getting ready to meet.  He and I had been talking together for some time. Now we had arrangements to see each other.  A visit to my sister`s house – close to his – to meet my newly adopted niece provided a handy opportunity.

As the date came closer, I began to identify negative emotion I was feeling when I thought about meeting him.  Truthfully I had anticipated this contrast.  But, I promised myself, this time in the spirit of the law of attraction I would not give him my laundry list of self-hating deprecation.

I wanted to him to meet the real me.  But every time we talked I was obsessively compelled  to spit it out all the reasons I wasn’t worth it.

It’s not necessary for you to exacerbate your contrast with struggle in order to get it into a higher place. It is not necessary to suffer in order to give birth to desire. But when you have suffered and you have given birth to desire, so what? You’ve got a desire. Turn your attention to the desire. Think about where you’re going and never mind where you’ve been. Don’t spend any more time justifying any of that stuff -Abraham

Over dinner with a friend I began to understand this:  Yes, I have a past.  In it I used to tell myself lies and believe them. Here is my opportunity to step into what is real and going on.  Be who I have already become.  Get with that program because that is where the joy is at. This is where my alignment lies and there is big beautiful proof of it everywhere I look.

And sometimes that is directly at myself in the mirror and I say out loud ” I love you, Richard.  I really do.”

“The anchor of the universe is located in every single one of us. – Dr. Wayne Dyer”

It feels like the truth to me.

I’ve always believed that there must be a way to inspire and instigate healing with nothing but what I have inside.

The creative power of the universe.

God.

I get it now.

I am God.

We all are.

When we want to be creating on that scale of elegance and genius, all we have to do is be still.   Get silent and breathe.

“The softest thing overcomes the hardest thing. – Lao-Tse”

When I am there I am no longer attentive to what I don’t have or where I am not going.  Not concerned with any steps to getting there.  I am aware of only infinite potential and abundance.

“…Is what I am thinking true?  Because the thought that it’s going to be difficult to do something or that it’s going to be complicated or it’s going to take a long time, or it’s a struggle… Usually, if you examine that, there is no truth in that whatsoever. – Dr. Wayne Dyer”

It invigorates.

There is no hope here or anxiety.  No blame just  forgiveness  It  is awareness and consciousness.

And thankfully because now I also realize that while subconscious…  I have put a great distance between myself and well, everything else.  (and for what?)

“Forgiveness is the fragrance the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it – Mark Twain”

My intent is to be here now.  To be joyful.  Aware and aligned with a universal divine mind that is always giving.  Only loving.  In this present moment, that lasts forever.

“Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry and all forms of fear, are caused by too much future and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness and all forms of non-forgiveness are caused by too much past and not enough presence. – Eckhart Tolle”

At this time of year I can at times find myself being rather melancholy. This time of year I think can make the best of us wish we were not who we are. Recently while at a retreat with Byron Katie she was dying to tell me this story. I think this is the perfect time of year to bring it out. The perfect time to remind us all we do have a right to live. Happy holidays to all!

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Thing won’t happen if you don’t take action. What kind of example would I be if I did not take the time to do my own Dream List after previously challenging YOU? How are your lists of dreams coming along? I have heard many people taking charge and making a commitment to writing their list. Feel free to leave yours in the comments below.

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1: To be the best Coach I can be
2: To live my life to the fullest.
3: To have less need for Love, Affection and Appreciation
4: To own a successful business that helps others be the best they can be.
5: To marry my partner Read the full story

It has been an exciting week for me starting with a Facebook chat with my sister. She said: ‘I have four dreams, do the dreams have to be realistic?” Well yes, they do have to be realistic and achievable, however I did not want limit your creativity and also I did not want you to have a definition of what realistic is, for this could be a matter of perspective.

My Friend and fellow coach Michael Moniz has finished his list of 100 dreams. Way to go Michael! Michael writes a blog for the gay and lesbian community out of Florida in the United States. In it he writes about Living Life Out Loud. Visit his post perhaps find some inspiration from it.

What Do You Really Want? or 100 Dreams

I will be holding off on my next Video post until after I discuss the the “Dream List” with Shaun Proulx  on Proud FM (you can listen at this link) on Monday. In the mean time I’m fulfilling one of my Dreams. I’ll leave you with a little taste Click Here.

Brandon Williams, Life Coach

www.btscoaching.com