Law of Attraction (def’t:) a term used widely by those of “New Thought”. Refers to the idea that thoughts influence chance. The LOA argues that thoughts – both conscious and unconscious – can affect things outside the head.

I have a tip for everyone keeping in mind the Law of Attraction principle. People may scoff at it, but the idea is really simple (and in some ways, you are a fool if you don’t think it has any credibility. Sorry to be blunt). Think about it: if you keep dwelling on the negative, you are going to experience it. Thinking negative thoughts creates negative feeling which resonates negative energy. The same thing happens with positivity.

A simple way to condition yourself and practice the LOA is by changing your passwords. Everyone has accounts: e-mail accounts, Facebook, Twitter, Myspace, Formspring et al which require both usernames and passwords. Change your password to something significant to you. Maybe it is a goal, a dream of yours, an aspiration. Maybe you want a new job (this happened to me!) so change your password to reflect that. Maybe you want a new car. What kind is it? Change your password to that. Maybe you have a secret crush? Who is he/she (I bet they’re cute!) Put their name as your password (I admit that does sound borderline creepy…)

The idea is that every time you type in your password you will reflect on that desire. Thought is an important thing. It can send out energy into the universe about that exact thing, and the more time you type in that password – which people tend to do frequently on a daily basis – the more it will get out there.

Try it out! (Besides, it’s better than “password123″ or “lame33″ or whatever the case may be).

I challenge you!!!!

I have not taken note of any interesting events lately and seeing that a couple have landed in my lap I thought I would take the time to share.

I’m using the law of abundance here because I really want to attend this event! Don Miguel Ruiz author of the four Agreements will be holding his Four Agreements Workshop on April 9 – 11.

“Everything we do is based on agreements we have made – agreements with ourselves, with other people, with God, with life. But the most important agreements are the ones we make with ourselves. In these agreements we tell ourselves who we are, how to behave, what is possible, what is impossible. One single agreement is not such a problem, but we have many agreements that come from fear, deplete our energy, and diminish our self-worth.”

“In these agreements we tell ourselves who we are, how to behave, what is possible, what is impossible.”

On another note I could not help but take note of this little gem emerging from our gay indie film community. First the subject is right up my ally. Second I have to admire the work that would have gone into this film. I certainly can relate to the subject.

STRUGGLE

Come join us at the Gladstone Hotel Ballroom for the premiere screening of STRUGGLE. Featuring Matt Sims, Jamie Potts and Arthur Vilner, Struggle tells the story of Darren, an unhappy runaway who falls in with a group of gay street hustlers in Toronto’s Village. Falling in love with one of them, Darren soon finds himself in a downward spiral of betrayal, drugs and prostitution.

Date: Tuesday, 16 March 2010
Time: 19:30 – 23:30
Location: Gladstone Hotel
Street: 1214 Queen Street West
Town/City: Toronto, ON

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“You are a lover.  The larger part of you loves.  When you don’t love, you are not who you really are and there is a seperation that you can feel in your solar plexus that feels like hate or feels like anger.” – Abraham

Interesting:

I had a romantic situation arise this week that inspired an intense emotional reaction.  When presented with the opportunity, my first thought/feelings regarding it were very strong.

I began feeling what seemed like very negative emotion right away.  Something was telling me that this was not the direction I wanted to be going. I could easily feel that I was being guided toward a different decision.

The problem is at the time I just questioned  these thoughts/feelings, as opposed to welcoming them, and listening to the message they related wholeheartedly.

I felt I was being selfish and not who I really am, I felt full of fear and insecurity.

“That empty awful feeling that you call fear simply means, your thought is not in sync with who you are.” – Abraham

The truth is: I allowed this message – “Richard, you are not being yourself” – to fall on deaf ears and let those deaf ears provide a false sense of peace.

The person I am today knows when to say NO to what I was being offered by life – and for good reason.

Yesterday I was making a playlist for a friend and I had asked about including music from a certain artist.

He said:  “Whatever is in your heart, add!  Doubt means don’t.”

And I thought…

OMG!  I knew that.

Why didn’t I listen to my own doubts about this romantic situation this week?  They were so loud and clear!  But I fought them.  I thought it was me being out of the vortex of my well being.  It was my own inner guidance system and it was saying: “RUN!”

“Negative emotion means you have departed from who you are.” – Abraham

I hadn’t experienced this much prolonged activity outside of my vortex in recent memory.  I could have easily listened.  Made other plans for a time when they felt right.  Instead I pushed myself and in the direction of that which I do not want.

In a text message from my beautiful sister, Allysyn, this morning, she asked: “How are you feeling through all this?”

I honestly replied: “Doing well.  The hot embarrassed feeling has almost entirely left me.  I have learned that next time my body, mind, soul  are giving me a direction, I will directly succumb to its guidance.  I do feel free knowing that something or someone has been experienced that brought a lot of life giving contrast – gave birth to huge desire – and will never quite happen that way again.”

“Ride your own rocket into the vortex and imagine your own resolutions that your life experience has caused you to launch.” – Abraham

“Stand before it there is no beginning. Follow it and there is no end. – Lao Tzu”

I know that one by heart.

When I genuinely let go of trying to control or predict the “how” of what I want in life, the way revealed to me,  and relief greets me moment by moment.  (And this next part makes me smile:)

Feeling joyful with absolutely nothing more than my breath I understand I’m not at the beginning or the end, just in the midst of it all.

The unfolding.

Without a map, but navigated by an inner compass, going by feel, elevated by limitlessness.

“Within the seed of your desire is everything necessary for it to blossom to fulfillment. And Law of Attraction is the engine that does the work. Your work is just to give it a fertile growing place in order to expand. “– Abraham

If you can feel happy with exactly what you have right now, forget about everything it is that you want.  Happy right now with nothing more than what you have, I promise you, that everything that you want will come.

I am fully living this moment right now, enjoying having everything unfold before me.   Confident it will all go all right and moved by the infusion of so much joy and fun and excitement.  Allowing with  sweetness for the sweetest ease.  Knowing that I am being done.

That it’s ALL being done.

For me.

“Abundance is not something we acquire.  It is something we tune into.” – Dr Wayne Dyer

I have a confession to make: I have been a slave to my own mind.

There are parts of me  holding on to the same old story and I don`t know why.  Even at times when I think that there are not.

Example:

There is this boy I was getting ready to meet.  He and I had been talking together for some time. Now we had arrangements to see each other.  A visit to my sister`s house – close to his – to meet my newly adopted niece provided a handy opportunity.

As the date came closer, I began to identify negative emotion I was feeling when I thought about meeting him.  Truthfully I had anticipated this contrast.  But, I promised myself, this time in the spirit of the law of attraction I would not give him my laundry list of self-hating deprecation.

I wanted to him to meet the real me.  But every time we talked I was obsessively compelled  to spit it out all the reasons I wasn’t worth it.

It’s not necessary for you to exacerbate your contrast with struggle in order to get it into a higher place. It is not necessary to suffer in order to give birth to desire. But when you have suffered and you have given birth to desire, so what? You’ve got a desire. Turn your attention to the desire. Think about where you’re going and never mind where you’ve been. Don’t spend any more time justifying any of that stuff -Abraham

Over dinner with a friend I began to understand this:  Yes, I have a past.  In it I used to tell myself lies and believe them. Here is my opportunity to step into what is real and going on.  Be who I have already become.  Get with that program because that is where the joy is at. This is where my alignment lies and there is big beautiful proof of it everywhere I look.

And sometimes that is directly at myself in the mirror and I say out loud ” I love you, Richard.  I really do.”

“The anchor of the universe is located in every single one of us. – Dr. Wayne Dyer”

It feels like the truth to me.

I’ve always believed that there must be a way to inspire and instigate healing with nothing but what I have inside.

The creative power of the universe.

God.

I get it now.

I am God.

We all are.

When we want to be creating on that scale of elegance and genius, all we have to do is be still.   Get silent and breathe.

“The softest thing overcomes the hardest thing. – Lao-Tse”

When I am there I am no longer attentive to what I don’t have or where I am not going.  Not concerned with any steps to getting there.  I am aware of only infinite potential and abundance.

“…Is what I am thinking true?  Because the thought that it’s going to be difficult to do something or that it’s going to be complicated or it’s going to take a long time, or it’s a struggle… Usually, if you examine that, there is no truth in that whatsoever. – Dr. Wayne Dyer”

It invigorates.

There is no hope here or anxiety.  No blame just  forgiveness  It  is awareness and consciousness.

And thankfully because now I also realize that while subconscious…  I have put a great distance between myself and well, everything else.  (and for what?)

“Forgiveness is the fragrance the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it – Mark Twain”

My intent is to be here now.  To be joyful.  Aware and aligned with a universal divine mind that is always giving.  Only loving.  In this present moment, that lasts forever.

“Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry and all forms of fear, are caused by too much future and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness and all forms of non-forgiveness are caused by too much past and not enough presence. – Eckhart Tolle”

Simple Supporting Structure

I can admit when I’m wrong. I have not been living up to my expectations for this blog.  I promised that I would deliver a post a week and I missed a week over the holidays. Well, that was before I started Positivelite.com. I never knew setting up a commercial blog would be not only so much fun but also so much work.

On PositiveLite.com I am committing to the process of quitting smoking. I have not declared my quit date as I wish to spend some time thinking about and researching the structure that I will use to support me in reaching this goal. This got me thinking about the structure I could be using to ensure that I Blog on time here on GayGuideToronto.com.

Short of having Shaun Proulx give me a good swat once in a wile which probably would make a great structure. One that I surely would respond too. As a baby commercial blog owner I know that this would not be very nice structure for Shaun. (Ok that’s a big assumption)

So what structure will I place? I’m thinking that I could set a reminder in my schedual. However I sence that at a time when I am busy it would be like an alarm clock in the morning that just is dying to be snoozed. I have those structures already!

It seems that this structure not good enough it seems that my structure needs a structure. Something that supports my goal even when my basic structures fail. Something that would be a great supporting structure would be to have several posts created in advance. I could also ask my readers to send me a reminder that a post is in order. For me it’s just a gentle reminder is all that’s needed.

Reminders are a great supporting structure so I guess I could have little notes all over the place. My partner who is a little OCD would not enjoy that. Supporting structures especially visual ones can be powerful. They don’t have to be so obvious either.  This past Christmas Shaun gave me a small present. he gave me cuff links with my initials on it. My partner picked them up and placed them on the boat in the bathroom. I love this and I think that this will serve as my visual reminder to do my posts.

Using visual or physical reminders that don’t have meaning to anyone elce other than yourself is a great way of creating structures. Painting a wall let’s say Red or any colour, and thinking “I am painting this wall red to remind me to complete goal ‘A’ ” is such a powerful way of supporting your goals and dreams. Painting a room with this sort of intention creates a pavlovian trigger. Subconsciously, when you walking into that red room you could not help but be reminded even on a subconcious level of what you want. Subconsciously you will think about the action and be more inclined to to take it.

What structures do you have in your life?

What structures support your structures?

What structures do you have that support you in a negative way?

Whenever you’re trying to understand anything that is as huge as all of the Universe, or as huge as all eternity, all you have to do is bring it back to something simple that you do understand, and ask the questions and apply them. And then you can understand the Whole. Everything that’s true of the Whole is true of the individual. – Abraham

It serves you  to line up your energy before you act, because if you do take action when out of alignment it’s not going to take you where you want it to anyway.  The energy always has to be a vibrational match. 

For me this can be a challenge.  Sometimes I go to this place where I am thinking I can act/work myself through situations/emotions, and that if I start busting my ass it’ll all be all right. 

I learned the truth of this in such an instantaneous deliciously satisfying way the other night.  I had to shovel the driveway.  It was covered in snow and about four inches of solid ice underneath.  The weather had turned mild so it was the best time to get this done.  (Trust me, I wasn’t feeling it.)

Huffing and puffing I take a crack at the ice.  I am cursing it in my head and out loud.  I could not get this ice to crack –I couldn’t seem to get at it or make any progress, you know?  I am thinking: “I’m never going to get this done… I am going to miss the Jennifer Hudson Christmas special on TV…”

So I say out loud “What are you doing?  Relax yourself, boy.  Get your breath right.  It’s just some snow and ice in the driveway, star…It’s all good.”   I tell myself to treat this as if it was a workout at the gym.  I wouldn’t be pissed of exerting myself at the gym.  I’d be happy about it.  A chance to keep things sexy and I’m in.

Well, as soon as I had the energy right and my thoughts on enjoying the feeling of the present moment – the task became effortless.  It was as if all of a sudden I hit the ice at all the right angles.  I felt awesome.  Right out there with the spot of the street light shining on me.  I just felt happy that I had allowed myself to  figure a way into alignment with my desires.  Even with something simple like  clearing the ice because now I could apply this to something greater.  Now, how great would that be? 

Hard work is not the path to Well- Being. Feeling good is the path to Well-Being. You don’t create through action; you create through vibration. And then, your vibration calls action from you. – Abraham

I want to turn a belief – one born from faith – into knowing.

Often I spent an inordinate amount of time over thinking what it is I want to say in this blog, a blog about my spiritual journey.

So, tonight as I write this I throw all my list of “maybe this, maybe that” out the window, and leave you with this:

I am in my beautiful and warm house on a December night.  I have a quiet mind.  There is a gorgeous man right in front of my face – who is so talented – at the desk sewing what I am sure will turn out to be a dynamite garment.  I’m sitting comfortably, writing.  My delicious and stunning super-kind roommate is upstairs, baking bread and watching holiday movies with a handsome friend and three good-natured dogs. I woke up this morning to a job offer.

If I have ever been in the vicinity of vibrational alignment, or the vortex of abundance (I whisper in your ear) I am right here and now in that centre.  I am connected to source, without any notions of a separation.  I am not sitting here wishing for “a life”.  This is and I am – life.  Living it in freedom, freed up by a new-found knowing and a carefree-ness (which is exactly what I wanted).  When it’s like this, I know I am being who I really am.

And I love it.  All I had to do is know I could write this down.  So what else is possible?

“You need not do anything.  Remain sitting at your table and listen.  You need not even listen, just wait.  You need not even wait, just become quiet and still and solitary.  And the world will offer itself to you, to be unmasked.  It has no choice.  It will roll in ecstasy at your feet.” – Franz Kafka