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GRAPPLING WITH GRIEF


I have never been one to have a huge problem with the loss of other people. I completely understand it’s natural to not accept that someone will be in our lives forever. People come with messages and give them to you and when you receive it they walk off the stage of life. At least it’s always been that way for me. Sometimes people come back only because I have needed a refresher on those lessons or I had an all together different lesson to learn from the same teacher.

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ROB FORD IS SAVING ME MONEY!!!


As promised in his campaign, Mayor Rob Ford said he would save me money! I have to share how he’s done this already. Thanks to his Honours special guest, that had the lovely privilege of placing the “Chain of Command” around his Honours neck. Don Cherry, addressed chambers with a good hearty dose of verbal diarrhea. Spewing forth such siloing statements such as: “I wore (Pepto-Bismol) pink to honour all those bike left wing pinkos”. I love Don Cherry because I think he represents the Right very well. Unfortunately that day, he should have drank the the pink instead of spewing. I do believe Pepto comes in Mr. Cherry flavour!

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3-WAY JEALOUSY?


Last week or so, I posted one of my posts and Partick Marano (Eddie Stone) posted it on Facebook asking the question: “Could you handle a poly-amorous relationship?” One of his friends replied that he could not as he would be jealous. I happened upon it and thought to myself Huh? I guess I need to address this and I did with the response “I thought we had a choice to act on our feelings or not.”

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ONE GREAT THING! EMMO E-BIKES


ONE GREAT THING – A GayGuideGiftGuide:

Dear Santa(s),

All I want for Christmas is an 

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WE NEED 3 PLEASE.


One of the huge downers of being in a triad is the assumption that all people and organizations make about what my relationship should look like. Let me explain. The other day Drasko was ever so lovingly given a set of tickets to Nina Arsenault’s The Silicone Diaries. He addressed this gift to John and myself by Facebooking the question: “I have been given two tickets to go to Nina’s opening night. Who wants to go?” It all got worked out as John said he did not want to go. See you on Thursday Nina! But what if John did want to go?

But this is not the only circumstance of assumptions about the kind of relationship that I will have. For instance we decided that we would check out the new strip club Flash (I’ll maybe give you my review of that another time). I can at times have my moments where I would consider myself a pig. Okay just a little pig. When going to the bathroom at Flash we were presented with a little gift from our local AIDS Service organization that was entitled “Pig pack, two condoms two lube” My question remains, why two? Any pig I know would need at least 3 condoms.

In our community of diversity, how is it always assumed that we need things in pairs?

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SECRETS TO MY SUCCESS…


Ah yes, those questions that you have about my relationship. We have been making reference to Sister Wives over the past few weeks and this immediately brings me to the number one thing that it takes to be in a 3 way relationship. “Allowing” is something I have been working on over the past year or so. Allowing rather than resisting, for me has provided freedom to my life and most of all movement forward.  My friend Staci refers to this as Grace, I never fully understood this word until now. Living without resisting what’s going on, is living in grace.

So yes, we all do sleep in the same bed although Drasko does have his own place which he tends to visit for days on end. He has a bit of the artistic hermit in him which I completely understand. The rest of the time it’s the three of us. I sleep in the middle and if anyone who happens to be reading this has a solution for the middle guy being trapped under the blankets and over heating please let me know what’s working for you.  The rule here is generally if you’re not sleeping well, you move to the couch.

Okay so maybe I won’t get to all of your questions but please feel free to ask below.

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SPILLING THE BEANS ON THE MATHEMATICS OF MY RELATIONSHIP.


I have been dating my partner John for about 6 years now. I will admit that this has been the best relationship of my life.

When I first started dating John we discussed the boundaries of what the relationship would look like. We explored whether it would be open or closed. Would we play together or assimilate the ever pervasive, “don’t ask, don’t tell policy”.

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AS WE FIGHT FOR THE SIMPLE THINGS LIKE FREE SPEECH.


Message from Ellen

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Belgrade

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Anderson Cooper

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It gets better (for a little humor)

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A CRACKED POT


I am not one to pass things on, but something this week is telling me to post this.

I love this parable and I hope you do too.

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Declaring the war on drugs over!


We all know that I talk about drugs.

I definitely believe there are many models of recovery for every addict. Abstinence or the AA model does not work for all people. It’s easy for many people to state, especially people like Minister Clement who at the International AIDS Conference in 2008 in Mexico City, brought shame to our county when he declared the insight, a supervised safe injection site an “abomination”.

I was there at the party he held for people living with HIV from Canada who were attending the conference. Many have had the opportunity to visit or even use the services that insight provides. Many of us felt he was an abomination. Shortly after that comment Minister Clement was moved to another Ministry. Thank god Harper does know something about “Harm Reduction”. Makes me sad that he only cares about removing the harm to himself and apparently doesn’t seem to bother with preventing the harm of the people.

Queers all over the world use drugs! You will get HIV, Hep B and Malaria from sharing an infected needle. We have loads of proof that this is fact. The current policies of the war on drugs are not working. The fact is, our Government has no evidence that the war on drugs policy is the best way to keep people from harm. Although, since 2008, Coca production has gone up by 20% and the processing of opium poppies has increased by double. Preventing people from accessing drugs in the first place has not worked since Nancy Reagan first jumped on that wagon.

This year in Vienna at AIDS 2010 the International AIDS Society, the International Centre for Science in Drug Policy (ICSDP), and the BC Centre for Excellence in HIV/AIDS issued the Vienna Declaration. It states:

HIV epidemics fueled by the criminalization of people who use illicit drugs and by prohibitions on the provision of sterile needles and opioid substitution treatment. 9, 10
HIV outbreaks among incarcerated and institutionalized drug users as a result of punitive laws and policies and a lack of HIV prevention services in these settings. 11-13
The undermining of public health systems when law enforcement drives drug users away from prevention and care services and into environments where the risk of infectious disease transmission (e.g., HIV, hepatitis C & B, and tuberculosis) and other harms is increased. 14-16
A crisis in criminal justice systems as a result of record incarceration rates in a number of nations. 17, 18 This has negatively affected the social functioning of entire communities. While racial disparities in incarceration rates for drug offenses are evident in countries all over the world, the impact has been particularly severe in the US, where approximately one in nine African-American males in the age group 20 to 34 is incarcerated on any given day, primarily as a result of drug law enforcement. 19
Stigma towards people who use illicit drugs, which reinforces the political popularity of criminalizing drug users and undermines HIV prevention and other health promotion efforts. 20, 21
Severe human rights violations, including torture, forced labour, inhuman and degrading treatment, and execution of drug offenders in a number of countries. 22, 23
A massive illicit market worth an estimated annual value of US$320 billion.4 These profits remain entirely outside the control of government. They fuel crime, violence and corruption in countless urban communities and have destabilized entire countries, such as Colombia, Mexico and Afghanistan. 4
Billions of tax dollars wasted on a “War on Drugs” approach to drug control that does not achieve its stated objectives and, instead, directly or indirectly contributes to the above harms. 24
To read further on this declaration please visit the Vienna Declaration site and sign the petition for evidence based drug policy.

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